Swinging with stress

Swinging with stress

It is very stressful to be stressed out and to also feel that you are not allowed to let it show. And bottling it up… is the very, very worst way to deal with stress.

Fantastic news, hey? Especially since a lot of us have been taught since childhood that one doesn’t ‘make a scene’; ‘men don’t cry’, ‘women are emotionally stronger than men’, the Bible says ‘have faith’ – not ‘let it out and kick and scream’, etc etc etc. And then there is the world we live in: crashing economies, wars, global warming, child slavery and abuse, cruelty to animals, deforestation, poverty…. Ah but we must grin and bear it; we mustn’t ‘perform’. We mustn’t stress. We must have faith and be civil.

Damn right we should try to keep the faith and try to be civil – within limits – but to tell us we shouldn’t stress, is plain stupid. There is a hell of a lot of stuff to stress about. We are only… human. (And no; ‘human’ is NOT a swear word!) To tell us we should be composed at all times even though we are by default like pressure cookers (without the little pressure controllers that allow blowing off steam when needed because of indoctrination, mind you) is more than stupid – it’s ridiculous.

We do need to blow off steam, sometimes. If you are a Christian and you think that you are so filled with the Holy Spirit that you never get angry, I am telling you that you are not in touch with yourself. If you think that you are so spiritual and zen that you never feel frustrated, I am telling you the same. I am telling you that you are lying to yourself – and that, even if it never shows in your actions, your body will show it or it will catch up with you one way or another. (By the way – how healthy are you?)

So now – what do we do? We be true to ourselves, that’s what. We accept that we are human, that we have feelings, that we need to not only accept them but also embrace them – and we start to not only laugh when we are happy, but we cry when we are sad, we let it out when we are cross, we let it out when we are frustrated, we go stand in the rain when we feel like it, we go to a park and hop onto a swing if we feel like it, we have a chocolate when we want one… Life is short. In fact, life is too short to have been put on the planet as a human being – and never be one.

We complain about wars? Well, peace that rests upon fear, is nothing but a suppressed war. Let there not be a war within yourself because you are too scared to be human. Don’t think you can escape being human – you can’t.

So stuff stress, anxiety, PTSD, depression and the whole lot. Start being who you are and were always meant to be: human. And not only that… the individual you were meant to be.


About rethaburger1

I have learnt a lot about life for 3 reasons: I have always loved learning, I have experienced many things - and I have made a lot of mistakes! :) I was blessed with various talents and gifts though, and have a passion for the planet we live on – especially humans. When one is eager to learn about life and living... believe this: life WILL teach you! As a sensitive country girl who grew up with good ethics and sober habits, it is quite remarkable what I have been exposed to thanks to my eagerness to learn about life... I have learnt hard lessons through very close relationships with people with drug and alcohol addictions, HIV/AIDS and ADD/ADHD. I have had a good 12 year relationship, and a really miserable 8 year one. I have been left, and I have left someone. I have been married and divorced, and have dealt with really difficult teenagers as a stepmother. I have experienced trauma and am learning how to manage PTSD, depression, severe anxiety and insomnia. I have learnt through these experiences, but not only that - they have given me a new life; a second life. I have also had a very successful career with a few managerial positions. Colourful, hey?  This blog is therefore aimed at everyone from every age group and all walks of life who want to learn how to enjoy life. I had help on my journey, and now.. now I believe I can be of value to others by paying forward what I have learnt and experienced. I can't WAIT to hear from all so we can create a huge camp fire here. This is going to be an amazing place where we all feel safe and have a good time. Therefore – let the comments roll in and be kind to others who might also benefit from a safe home and circle of friends - let the world know about this blog. Lovelight and laughter; always Retha PS - Yes I will make up my own words if I feel like it! :)
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