It is very stressful to be stressed out and to also feel that you are not allowed to let it show. And bottling it up… is the very, very worst way to deal with stress.
Fantastic news, hey? Especially since a lot of us have been taught since childhood that one doesn’t ‘make a scene’; ‘men don’t cry’, ‘women are emotionally stronger than men’, the Bible says ‘have faith’ – not ‘let it out and kick and scream’, etc etc etc. And then there is the world we live in: crashing economies, wars, global warming, child slavery and abuse, cruelty to animals, deforestation, poverty…. Ah but we must grin and bear it; we mustn’t ‘perform’. We mustn’t stress. We must have faith and be civil.
Damn right we should try to keep the faith and try to be civil – within limits – but to tell us we shouldn’t stress, is plain stupid. There is a hell of a lot of stuff to stress about. We are only… human. (And no; ‘human’ is NOT a swear word!) To tell us we should be composed at all times even though we are by default like pressure cookers (without the little pressure controllers that allow blowing off steam when needed because of indoctrination, mind you) is more than stupid – it’s ridiculous.
We do need to blow off steam, sometimes. If you are a Christian and you think that you are so filled with the Holy Spirit that you never get angry, I am telling you that you are not in touch with yourself. If you think that you are so spiritual and zen that you never feel frustrated, I am telling you the same. I am telling you that you are lying to yourself – and that, even if it never shows in your actions, your body will show it or it will catch up with you one way or another. (By the way – how healthy are you?)
So now – what do we do? We be true to ourselves, that’s what. We accept that we are human, that we have feelings, that we need to not only accept them but also embrace them – and we start to not only laugh when we are happy, but we cry when we are sad, we let it out when we are cross, we let it out when we are frustrated, we go stand in the rain when we feel like it, we go to a park and hop onto a swing if we feel like it, we have a chocolate when we want one… Life is short. In fact, life is too short to have been put on the planet as a human being – and never be one.
We complain about wars? Well, peace that rests upon fear, is nothing but a suppressed war. Let there not be a war within yourself because you are too scared to be human. Don’t think you can escape being human – you can’t.
So stuff stress, anxiety, PTSD, depression and the whole lot. Start being who you are and were always meant to be: human. And not only that… the individual you were meant to be.